Thursday, May 23, 2013

Patience


I am not a very patient person.  Now, when it comes to working with kids, I have a lot of patience.  I mean...you don't become a Kindergarten teacher if you don't possess a bit of patience.  No, I lack patience when it comes to things getting done.  Once I have an idea, I want to see that idea come to life...now.  Just ask my husband about moving furniture.  When I suggest we might rearrange a room, he knows that I don't mean "in the next few weeks."  I mean in the next few hours...or better yet, RIGHT NOW.  Luckily I married a patient man with a passion for furniture moving (okay, half of that is true!)

If God is trying to teach me more patience, getting me involved in Safe Families was a great plan.  I am not in charge, not in control, and nothing moves at the pace I would choose.  Our first placement was a two-hours-from-call-to-kid event.  While it was stressful for various reasons, it was just my style.  There was no waiting involved- we just jumped right in.  Adrenaline-pumping efficiency.  Boo yah.

Since then, our placements have been slower.  A call about a possible child, it falls through, a call about a different child to arrive today...no, tomorrow, no nevermind.  There are good reasons for all of this- placing a child should be (and is) taken on with care, situations change, all the details must be worked out, and parents should be able to change their minds.  These families are in volatile, crisis situations...I get it.  But it still drives me a little bit nuts.

We were supposed to get a four year old on Monday but that fell through, so then it was going to be a 5 month old on Wednesday.  No go, but we might get him on Friday.  This is really not a problem for any reason other than my anxious, git-er-done nature.  But I am slowly learning to roll with it and be flexible.  I am not in charge on this one- I am not the teacher, not the mom, not the oldest child.  I am learning to wait.  And I think that is a good thing.

But it still drives me just a little crazy :)

On the bright side, when I found out we were getting a baby on Wednesday, I cleaned my house from top to bottom in the world's fastest nesting phase ever.  So I may not have a baby today, but at least I have a clean house!  In fact, if someone would call and tell me to expect a baby every month or two, my house would be in great shape!

Anyways, we will get the kids we are meant to have- even if the timing is a little wonky.  So until then I am just going to take a deep breath and try to put my feet up...


3 comments:

  1. "world's fastest nesting phase ever"... this phrase made me laugh out loud.

    Keep doing what you're doing. You're making the world a better place.

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  2. Waiting is so hard! But you are in a situation where nothing is set in stone, even after you do have a child show up. I admire you for being willing to be so flexible, so ready to care.

    On a side note, I cleaned and cleaned because I had invited a friend over for lunch, and she was 15 minutes late--and I thought I was going to go bonkers. I bet that's sort of how you feel. I hope you get the company you're waiting for! :)

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  3. Oh my goodness! I have had placements with SF too! That was my "first step" towards fostering...so you never know where it might lead you! ;) But yes, the waiting is crazy making!

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